Happiness is within.

In today’s world everything moves so quickly across the skies, we are bombarded with ideas and information, People standing their telling us what we should do what we should know. Some of us live in comfort and are miserable and others live in squalor and are happy.

I have spent most of my life like many others saying” ooooh ill be happy if this happened or I did this”. Of course, when I got it or did it after a short time I was desperately unhappy again. Again I would repeat the process and go deeper and deeper into depression and clouded judgement.

You see we are conditioned from birth to think this way and Humans are more likely to think negatively if they are not in control of their mind. We are continuously searching for happiness are we are conditioned to believe it may be in a product or a services or another person.

Brainwashed and diverted to look in all the wrong places.

Let us think about it, you look at Tv  or magazines we are subjected to advertisement after advertisement on how this product can make our lives better and the same in magazines its all want to be happy: you need this you need that.

If you want to be happy you need someone to complete you, Hollywood has been telling us for years; and that famous line “your complete me” . This of course is to make the the movies more emotional and to tug at our heartstrings but the truth of the matter is no one can complete you as you are already whole, but the issue is you do not realize it.

I feel all human beings are whole and have all the answers within but are never thought this fact and never nurtured to believe this. I feel the first thing we need to do is think.

I feel if you are reading this today you need to stop all this nonsense and first go inside, our world is internal. Allied to this I believe that your are the sky and the world and the people in it are the sea, they reflect you.

So if this is so, can you imagine the great power you have to change your world and to find your happiness your bliss. I now its not easy in this crazy world. everybody rushing to nowhere at they are so caught up in this chaotic world they believe this to be normal.

The happiest people with less.

I have traveled to many parts of the world and I have seen the happiest people with less. They looked beautiful with out compare as they enjoyed simple pleasures and ate little and interacted with each other in close proximity.

No matter what was going on even in the face of a set back they took it in their stride and continued to smile. They laugh heartily and were genuinely interested in their fellow beings.

I we look at us in the so called developed world we are losing our humanity and worse still losing ourselves. Many of us seek happiness in material things and in other people this of course is a shame and we do not realize we are completely controlled by various medias and organisations our minds are no longer our own.

I feel if you are reading this today, you need to take a step back you need to take time to your self, you cannot keep running to others agendas and demands. You need to to reclaim your life.

Let us speak of life today and happiness.

Let us speak of life today, many of us are lucky enough to go to university but the problem is we are not sure of exactly what we want to do but we are getting pushed along by our friends as they are going many of us may pick a course just to be near our friend or to satisfy our parents wishes.

This of course is hard to resist and before we know it we are in a job that pays the bills but we have no satisfaction from it. It does not light our fire and we do not have the courage or the will to follow our dreams and stay.

We then may meet someone within our circle and fall in love and settle down but the issue here is we really should not even think about starting a relationship guys until we are happy within our selves as sooner or later we are heading for the rocks.

But what happens here time and time again is the person we meet are a welcome distraction from unhappy lives are we make them better than they are in our heads and then it becomes a drug and before we know we are in a loveless marriage with 2 children. why because were not happy with ourselves.

The leaders of Personal Development.

I strongly believe with each passing day and the more I research, read and listen to the greats like Tony Robbins, Brendan Buchard, John Assaraf and Stuart Wilde. The whole world truly is between our ears and we have the capacity to create happiness in an instant and we have the capacity to create amazing lives, the one of our dreams but we need to go inwards and invest in ourselves.

I know most of us do not really know ourselves as we have been too busy sacrificing pieces of ourselves on a regular basis to know. I see many of us rush into relationship after relationship looking for the other to complete us yet once the initial ecstasy wears off and then comes life; we are left disappointed and hurt and blame and complain about the other person and then the relationship finishes and what do we do the same thing over again.

What was it that Einstien “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”. So please guys to break this habit and go within and heal and complete yourself.

Take time and invest in yourself.

We need to take time and invest in yourself, we need to become happy with our self we have to become proud of our selves. We need to be completly at peace with ourselves. So what do we need to do. I would say we need to invest in our body and minds.

So first let us get physically activate, many people will say Colm, I do not have the time, I have not exercised in years. Look guys let us leave the excuses at the door you want to find happiness are not? Then I suggest you start taking steps towards it.

Now let me address the time issue it is complete nonsense with the majority of us, the reason I say this is “do you watch Tv? I bet you said of course I do. Then I have to ask how much, many of you will answer 2-3 hours per night. So I ask you again is the excuse do not have time the truth??? Of course not.

With the excuse I have not trained in years the truth is guys, do you think you should exercise to the level you did years ago? Of course not you have to take baby steps. First just start to move more.

Make sure you get a walk in. I would suggest you go to the local gym and get a program and also start adopting a more active approach to life. Let me say to you that you live close to the shop and always take the car, quite simply leave the car at home and walk. So start changing your habits gradually. Keep in mind Rome was not built in a day.

Start slow on the pursuit of happiness.

I think too many people get in their head they have to change but they start much too aggressively and give up within a few weeks as they bit off more than they could chew. So guys let common sense prevail and take baby steps and you will succeed. Your life will change and you will change.

Your energy levels will increase you will feel confidence seeping into your bones. People will tell you then you will start becoming more disciplined and go in the right direction. Once this starts happening you will surpass all expectations and you will be proud and others will be too and you will feel Happiness rising within you.

Invest in your Mind.

Now once you get you body moving;  you have to start working on your mind. Too many  of us have given up on our dreams and believe life has pasted us by. This is crazy guys, its not over till you win as Les brown says and I believe Les to be right guys.

It does not matter your age your circumstance, you can do it you can reach your goals your dreams but you have to invest in your mind. First you have to start mediating guys and taking time out to do so. I think Mind valley in a great place to go, of course you can find  mediation audios all over the net. I will put a link to 2 of my favorite at the bottom of this post guys to get you started.

Find great mentors

Also start reading as much material as you can on Personal development. Read our posts here at 2getherpeople, go to Tony Robbins,Brendon Burchard, Bob Proctor , Joe Vitale and of course John Assaraf, and many more. The more you read these people guys, your mind will start to change its thinking, as you have now created a healthly diet of empowering information for your mind and thinking.

Start applying all the strategies you can learn from these great men. I listen to audio books and read articles and books as much as I can guys. I feel it is this investment in me that will bear fruit as we are living in changing times and we need to be in control of ourselves and be flexible to move with the faced paced world we live in. Therefore we need a flexible mind to adapt in this fast paced environment.

Happiness is within an in the now.

So guys once you start applying the strategies to improve your body  and mind. You need to take time to understand what you really want in life. You need to go within guys to find happiness. Think about what makes you smile think about what gives you joy. Quite simple do more of it.

So set down your goals and work back create a plan. You have to enjoy the journey but make sure the goal is big enough to propel you forward. The trick is guys to understand the journey is to be enjoyed even the setbacks. These are all opportunities to be enjoyed and find solution.

I think we need to go within to find happiness but we also need to become more mindful guys start living in the now. There is a great book that a great friend of mine was reading as he was coming to the end of his life at a young age from the big C. The book Daniel recommended was the “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. Live right now guys enjoy the now become the now. Go get this book and it will open your eyes.

So that is it from me today guys I hope you find some value in this post.

Happiness is within

Talk Soon

Colm